Finding your Twin Flame is challenging. While everyone has a soulmate, not everyone has been chosen to have a Twin Flame. In fact, while most people think they are the same thing, they are very different. A Twin Flame is a much deeper connection than a soul mate because Twin Flames are actually each one half of a soul split in two. This means that the Twin Flame connection is more than a romantic connection, and there is a chance you won’t be romantically interested at all, though you will both love each other intensely. Twin Flames are not a connection based on romance but on one-ness. Yes, your soulmate may share the same energy as you, but your Twin Flame was once a part of you.
There are stages to meeting your Twin Flame just as there are stages to meeting every important person in your life. It’s not easy to find your Twin Flame and fall in love with a mirror of yourself. While the connection will be unlike any other you’ve ever experienced, you have to remember that no one likes to look in the mirror. The honeymoon period will wear off and you’ll both be forced to deal with the parts of yourself that you don’t like – the parts that still need growth and spiritual evolution.
Twin Flame Stages Breakdown
The first stage of finding your Twin Flame is feeling the yearning for them. You will search high and low. You’ll try out a number of different relationships positive that each one is your Twin Flame only to be left disappointed time and time again. Finally, you’ll give up on ever finding them. You’ll feel so broken and battered that you give up on the idea of ever filling this void in your soul and you pass all hope of ever feeling whole again into the universe. This pain is necessary. It is a part of helping you to break the chains on your soul so that you can be ready for what is coming.
In the second stage you finally catch a glimpse of your Twin Flame and when you do, you realize just how wrong you were to think all those other relationships were right. This moment, this realization that you have spotted your other half will ring with such clarity you won’t be able to doubt it. However, the process of awakening and realizing your Twin Flame is not the same for both people. One of you will be ready, the other won’t even notice yet.
The third stage will start off slowly, but then burst forward in a rush of speed that may take your breath away. Once you’ve recognized your Twin Flame you’ll do everything you can to spend time with them. And before you know it, you’ll have fallen in love with them. Sometimes this includes romantic love, but more importantly, you’ll be in love on levels beyond those of a common relationship. Your relationship will fly ahead so quickly that others may be concerned over how close you two are so quickly, but you will both be certain that your relationship is strong and secure.
The fourth stage is difficult and painful. This is the stage of growth, where you are forced to really see yourself, to see the hidden parts of your soul that you don’t like mirrored back to you in this person you love. Worse, you’ll reject this idea even though a part of you will know it is true. You’ll push back against the thought that these things that repulse you about your Twin Flame are found in you as well because you two are part of the same whole. This is where the relationship becomes dark and unhappy.
It is important to note that while this is an unhappy and difficult stage of the relationship, at no point will a Twin Flame become abusive towards their other half. If you are in a relationship with someone who is abusive they are not your Twin Flame. Leave as soon as you are safely able.
The pain of the fourth stage leads to the fifth stage of running and chasing. One of the partners will be so repulsed and frightened by what they have seen and learned about themselves in their soul mirror that they will bolt. They will probably feel as though they are losing themselves and who they are rather than seeing that what they are experiencing is soul ascension. The other partner will chase after them, trying to avoid growth as well and instead trying to force the runner to evolve first. This dynamic can last for months or even years. During this phase they will also experience separations. These will be difficult – the separation often causing great anguish and distress for the chaser as they yearn to be with their Twin Flame.
It’s important to focus inward during these times and work on healing and growth. The more you take these times to work on improving yourself and growing your soul the shorter the separations will start to be. But if you continue to waste them you can delay your union with your Twin Flame.
In The End…
Finally you will both surrender. You’ll accept that you simply cannot live without the other person – no matter what you do they’re always on your mind, in your heart… under your skin. You’ll both stop running and expecting the other person to change. You’ll have accepted the person in the mirror, opened deep wounds in your soul and worked on growing and healing. Though this stage can regress back to the Run and Chase stage, it is a sign that you are almost ready for the last stage.
Union with your Twin Flame is the last stage of finding your Twin Flame. You recognize that you are both part of the same soul being, you are ready to give up selfishness and the ego and build a relationship that is healthy and love based, encouraging both people to be who they are as they complement each other.